Last Updated on November 14, 2019
I have overcome many things in my life, and I know that I was able to because I was able to flip some negative affirmations into some positive ones. The way we talk to ourselves really does define what we do or don’t do. I am a prime example of that, which is why I feel so much passion about positive affirmations and a positive mentality. I see too many people getting stuck in a negative loop that never allows them to change their life for the better, even though they have the power to do so.
5 Positive Affirmations That Changed The Course Of My Life
I’ve affirmed many positive things to myself, but I can honestly say that the following 5 positive affirmations have had a huge impact on where I have ended up.
1. I Deserve A Good Guy
For years, I dated jerks and losers.
- I dated a guy who was addicted to cocaine.
- I dated a guy who had just gotten out of prison.
- I dated a guy who stole my money.
- I dated a guy who would stay out all night doing god knows what.
- I dated a guy who literally ran off with the circus and never called me again.
- I dated guys who didn’t want to commit, didn’t really seem to like me and stole a ton of my self-worth.
I told myself that I wanted a cool guy. I wanted a guy who was bad, which always equaled a jerk or a loser.
Then, one day after having my heart stomped on again, I had enough. I affirmed to myself something positive for once. I said, “I will only date good guys from now on. I deserve a good guy and I want a good guy, and I won’t accept anything less.”
From that moment on, I repeated my new positive affirmation. And I rejected anyone who I deemed a jerk or a loser, which meant I stayed single for a while.
Then, one day, I wrote a long list of qualities I wanted in a guy and within two weeks I found him. I’ve been with him for 13 years since then and he is the best guy any girl could ever ask for.
When you get clear on what you want and will not accept- and accept being single for a while – finding a good partner becomes easy.
If I was still in relationships like I was back then – lacking support, trust, and love, my life would be very different right now.
2. I Deserve Good Friends
You are a sum of the people closest to you. They have a lot of influence over you. So it’s important to surround yourself with good people if you want to live a good life.
Part of the reason I always dated jerks was that my friends were jerks, and their friends were jerks, and any guys that came along were JERKS!
You can spend a lot of time trying to win over someone. That can blind you to how good of a person they really are. But, once you affirm to yourself that you deserve good people in your life that treat you with respect, support you, and want the best for you, it becomes really easy to spot those people that are dragging you down.
I wasn’t happy with a few of my friendships. I didn’t want to hang out with these people, but I felt obligated to until I realized that I had a choice – and it was a choice I wanted to make.
Once I ‘broke up’ with these friends, life felt lighter, more fun, and more rewarding. I can’t imagine where I would be if I had stayed friends with them.
3. I Am Not A Smoker
I smoked from a young age. I thought it was cool, just like all those jerks I was dating and friends with.
Moreover, a lot of my family members smoked, so it was just something I was always around.
My Nana always told me that she started smoking because her doctor recommended it to her. Apparently that was his remedy for the stress she was feeling in her life. She smoked for 50 years after that recommendation. She was always fairly healthy, so, because I was a lot like her, I was one of those people who thought that smoking probably would never affect me.
Then one day it did. I started coughing after eating, which was embarrassing. I had that smoker’s cough that is so disgusting and unattractive. I was getting sore throats, and sometimes I felt like it was hard for me to breathe. Whether those last two things were from smoking or not, I’m not sure, but at the time I felt like they were.
The problem was that I told myself that I was a smoker, so any attempts to quit were in vain. I was a smoker. I couldn’t quit smoking. That was my affirmation. It was a part of who I was. I went on like that for years.
Then one day when I really want to quit smoking, I told myself, “I am not a smoker.” I repeated that positive affirmation to myself over and over again. I knew that I needed to believe that I wasn’t a smoker if I was ever going to quit.
That positive affirmation changed my health forever. I was able to quit because I believed that I was someone who didn’t need to smoke and didn’t enjoy smoking. Despite all my friends being smokers – and many of my family members being smokers, I was able to stop and never pick up a cigarette again.
You couldn’t make me smoke if you tried because I am not a smoker and have no desire to be one.
4. I Am Always Working On My Personal-Development
I used to have some seriously negative affirmations in this area, such as ‘I will never be any better than who I am now’ or ‘I will never be able to overcome this or that’.
One day I started to use the following positive affirmation: I’m always working on my personal development.
At the time, I really wasn’t, but I wanted to. I wanted to become better. I wanted to become happier. So, I knew that I would need to change in order to do that. The more I affirmed it, the more I started to consciously look for help and answers, and then use what I found.
Where would I be if I hadn’t affirmed this to myself? Still working at a job I hate and struggling with the same issues I used to struggle with – that’s where.
Once I started affirming this to myself, things changed. I started to require more from myself.
I spent most of my time reading and taking courses on things I was interested in.
Personal growth happened quickly and my life started to become more of what I wanted and less of what I didn’t want.
This will continue for the rest of my life, by the way, because I truly believe that I am someone who is always working on my personal development.
5. I Am Responsible For My Own Happiness
This affirmation is a big life-changer.
I’ve found that when you stop blaming other people for your problems and struggles, you start taking ownership of how your actions, words, and habits impact your life.
It becomes clear that you have the power to choose to be happy no matter what is happening around you.
You always have the ability to see the bright side of things. And you usually have the power to choose to do things that make you happy over things that don’t make you happy.
For instance, something as small as watching TV shows that make you miserable is a choice. I used to hate horror shows. They made me feel scared and sad and bad. I blamed my friends for making me watch and the show for putting me in that mood. But, I soon realized that I needed to take ownership of my own happiness and choose to stop watching horror shows that made me so upset.
Each time I feel bad, sad, angry, or hurt, I remember this affirmation. Then, I take ownership of what I did to cause me to feel bad, sad, angry, or hurt, and then I fix it.
It’s a simple positive affirmation: I am responsible for my own happiness. But it will change your life.